Who Are You, Really?

So in my psychology class Wednesday night, the question arose, "What motivates you?" I look around and puzzled faces took over the room. Then, the teacher asks, "What are you good at?" Again, to my surprise it was like pulling teeth to get answers out of my classmates. The demographics that I failed to mention were young people between the ages of 19-24. Now as I pondered over what I observed, it hit me. Why are we inclined to pursue relationships with others without pursuing a relationship with self? What is the big rush to engage in a committed relationship or friendship without figuring out our own makeup? Moreover when those ill advised relationships fail, why are we so distraught as if we didn't play a huge role in the matter?

Connecting with others is about sharing common grounds. Then after finding common ground we can enjoy each other's company. Since there are many that do not know who they are in full detail and in fact are in relationships or friendship, is the common ground being lost? I mean what is tying them together if they do not know who they are on the inside? The answer is, nothing. That is why marriages fail, the unmarried date countless people(mostly), and friendships do not last because there are people who haven't grown into themselves. Any relationship takes two whole people to thrive. Broken people attract broken people and the longevity is shorter than your next breath. 

The point of this all is to understand that we can't truly connect with others if we have missing pieces to who we are wholly. You ever connected the wrong piece to a puzzle? It never fits and it looks weird. Thus the imagery of today's dating scene. Ever dated someone or befriend someone and go, "What was I thinking?" You weren't. Well, not properly anyways. So I ask you, what's your purpose? Why are you here? What legacy do you want to leave? Why do you get up in the morning? Is it just for money? Perhaps, you want to make a difference. Are you merely existing and waiting on your death? Do you seek companionship as completion? Who are you? Who are you trying to be? Who do you want to be? With whom have you shared yourself with? The real you. Do you even know who the real you is? Who. Are. You?